Social Media and the Dawn of the Energy Vampires

We all have something, an illness, disease, and/or hardships that we face on a daily basis. For some of us, those days are very dark and painful, while others seem to just float by unharmed and unscathed by the presence of adversity.

I can say that there probably isn’t actually a person out there that isn’t affected by something in one way or another.

I have been trying to be patient with others on Facebook and social media that often times seem to play the victim. Declaring their pain whether physically or mentally for the whole world to see and read, posting multiple times a day. I certainly don’t mind a venting rant once in a while, I believe we all need them occasionally and the support that comes a long with them.

What I do need to keep in mind, however, is that these individuals are often severely struggling with mental health concerns and inner turmoil that they are not yet aware of or have acknowledged.

I have quit responding to consecutive negative posts to save my own Empath energy.  I found it completely draining on myself to try to lift these people up that frankly, aren’t looking for that right now because they can’t find happiness within themselves. Therefore, anything said will only temporarily satiate the Energy Vampire.

I have had to create a distance between myself and those that are the Energy Vampires.  Nothing will be enough for them, unfortunately. That is why those posts keep filling up the pages of your newsfeed. Something is always wrong, nothing is ever right with their world, bad things always happen to them, when am I going to get a break, prayers are needed right now but I can’t explain why…

Until we can look within and work on ourselves and find where we need to be and what we need, we can’t find comfort from the compassion of others in their words, or actions no matter how hard we try.

I have compassion and empathy for these individuals, but I no longer let them take my energy. I need that energy with me for my own well-being, mental and physical health.

Hold on to your energy ladies and gentleman! Energy is a very hard thing to get back and once an Energy Vampire has a hold of your energy it is very hard to get away and they suck more and more out of you until you are sitting on empty.

Give yourself permission to not acknowledge the post or very few. Give yourself permission to hold on to your own energy, you deserve it. Decide where you want to give your energy and make sure it is only for your higher wellness and higher self. Ask yourself if this a good use of your energy or not. Your intuition will direct you on the right path. You know what is best for you! Trust yourself! 🙂

If we could only all love like dogs

Wouldn’t the world be a much better place if only humans could love like dogs do?

When you come home and see that furry face and wagging tail, there is no better welcome home gift.

Dogs love unconditionally and without judgment. I heard a quote once and I am not sure who the author of that quote is but it said, “Dogs don’t live as long as humans because they already know how to love”.

The only thing that dogs need from us is food, water, a good tummy rub or back scratch once in a while and our love. They love us even when we can’t love ourselves.

There is something so wonderful about these 4 legged companions that create an indescribable bond with them. They don’t expect you to have the house cleaned and spotless, they don’t expect you to get a job promotion at work, they don’t expect you to make a perfect and presentable meal (although, some appreciate it), they don’t care how much we weigh or the color of our skin, whether we are straight, gay, lesbian, transgender, bisexual, sick, or healthy.

Dogs don’t have something that we as humans have and that is an overabundance of expectations. I have been trying my best to release expectations of others and of myself and that is a very hard thing to do.  I expect kids and other people to act respectfully and kind toward others, I expect that my husband will love me even when I am going through struggles, I expect social gatherings to be completely pleasant and flawless when I can engage in them.  These expectations are almost always unmet.  Not that people aren’t genuinely good or courteous, but for the fact that we are human. We do not have the endless love that a pet can give without asking for the bare minimum in or merely nothing in return.

My goal in life is to live and love more like a dog. Have compassion for others, not have such high or have no expectations of others, enjoy each minute and live in the now, savoring all the glory the moment has in-store for me, appreciating those around me, being aware that life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful and amazing.

Best wishes and positive energy to you and may you also find the strength and calm of learning to live like a dog. 🙂

Why I think I have been so “Lucky” with my Type 1 Diabetes (Why it’s important not to shame your child’s disease, disability, or illness)

I have been remarkably lucky with my Type 1 Diabetes that I was diagnosed with when I was 6.  Not that I haven’t had hospitalizations as a young child and a very low blood glucose scare about 6 months ago where the ambulance had to be called. But over all, I have had really good control and so far no diabetes related damage which is amazing to be able to say after 29 years.

The advancements in insulin are a lot to do with it. I take one shot nightly which is a 24 hr acting insulin and a shot of a fast acting insulin every time I eat or with coffee. Yes, I still love coffee but it takes insulin, unfortunately. 🙂

The one thing that stands out the most though, is that my parents NEVER shamed my diabetes in front of me growing up. At least not that I can remember.  They were terrified of the disease but never said, ” Damn diabetes”.  I feel that if they would’ve shamed my disease they would’ve been shaming me and I would’ve had an entirely different outlook on the disease itself and I believe that it would’ve caused more damage to me with more complications along the way.

If you have a child with a disability, disease, or illness I ask that you try your very best not to shame the adversity in their lives as I can guarantee that it will shame them in the process at a level they might not even recognize and make the situation or condition much worse.

I have to try not to do this with my other illnesses as well and it certainly takes patience and constant awareness of what I am saying to myself. Noticing, changing the way I speak to myself and about my diagnoses has helped me move forward tremendously.

I believe it is so important for us to be mindful of how we speak to ourselves as well as how we speak to others about health.

If you can reverse it and think of something you are struggling with that you will be attached with for the rest of your life and someone shames it. Then that shame will also be attached along with the lifelong illness and looked at as being nothing but negative.

I have a friend on Facebook that constantly says how much her child’s disease sucks and we hate it. I tried to personally message the mother and share my story, but she wasn’t ready to listen at that time. Because of the anger and hurt, she had for her child. Which, as a parent is completely understandable. Maybe the frustrations can be let out in a different way. A child with an illness has to be the worst thing for a parent to go through. I would suggest counseling would be very beneficial for the whole family in this case or someone for the parents to vent to in a closed and personal environment away from the kiddos.

I am thankful that my parents never shamed my disease or shamed me.  I believe I am stronger with my disease because of this. Thank you, Mom and Dad. You are wonderful teachers to look up to.

My heart goes out to you if you are struggling in this way. I hope that you can find a great support system to help you through the hardships that having a child with an illness, disability, or disease entails. Positive energy and blessings to you.

 

The struggle with relating self-worth with accomplishments and material items

I have found it so detrimental to my health the way that my self-worth is tied to what I get done in a day, what I am doing with my time, what others expect of me, or at least what I “think” others expect of me.

Part of this might be being brought up in the midwest where work is very important and shows somewhat of a status symbol as well as the home we live in and the toys that we have. All of these things have become a signifier or false relation to who we are as humans.

Going through depression I have learned that if I wake up and intend to do no harm to others and try my best to love myself it doesn’t matter what happens the rest of the day.  For today, I have succeeded. I have to pat myself on the back for what I got accomplished as well as have the patience with myself to realize that what didn’t get done will be ok and it does not define me as an individual.

Because depression is not a physical illness, it is hard for others and for myself often times hard to gauge the progress that I have made. Individual progress is purely and solely individual.  No one can take that progress away from you and no one can tell you that you are not making enough of it. Often times we put this own pressure on ourselves because we didn’t get the laundry done, the floor vacuumed, or a project finished or even started that we have been meaning to do.

I have to start simple, with statements such as I got up today, I made the bed today, my feet hit the floor today, I made a sandwich for myself today. I made the best choice I could today, I didn’t blow up at someone today, even though I really wanted to.

Have patience with yourself. Be kind to yourself.  I remember words my Dad used to say to me as a child, ” you’re the most important person you are ever going to meet”.  I would shrug off these words, which I wish now looking back that I would’ve listened and taken them in deeply as a young child.

It is an exhausting life if we try to live up to expectations of others and the “gold standard”. After all, these standards, statements, and expectations are made by mankind so they are most certainly flawed.

My husband and I do not live in a large 4 bedroom 3 bathroom house, we don’t have toys, we don’t have a lot of money in our bank accounts right now. But we are happy. We are happy that we have a roof over our head, food in the fridge, and a life together where we accept and love one another. I really don’t think you can get any richer than that!

Treat yourself with respect and a gentle kindness that we often give to others but forget to give to ourselves.

Cherish the moments in the NOW before they are gone.  You are where you are supposed to be at this point in time. As Eckhart Tolle said (I’m paraphrasing here) There is no past, there is no future, there is only NOW.

So do the best you can with your NOW wherever that might be and you are succeeding.

My experiences with being an Empath

I remember from such a young age that I felt so out of place and like I didn’t fit in anywhere. I would often separate myself from my unfamiliar body that was holding a higher vibration soul.  I remember thinking, “does everyone feel so awkward and disconnected with their body?”

I would get teased throughout school for being “weird”or “different”.  I was so sensitive to what others said that I would often cry and be called a crybaby so many times I have lost count.

I wouldn’t say I had a specific group of friends.  I would tend to bounce around to different groups and blend in like a chamillion. I never really had my own identity I would pick up on the identities of others and  be more like them and their energy.

I had horrible nightmares as a child, even though I never watched scary movies (until I got older). They were so vivid and real. I would feel a presence or spiritual beings when they were around. I had no idea what this was or how to talk to anyone about it without thinking they would tell me I was crazy.

I have always been strongly connected to others energies and the energies of a spiritual sense. After finally breaking, I fell into a deep depression, have overwhelming anxiety and was also diagnosed with ADHD.  Some of the diagnoses make me realize that there was no way I can focus because I am constantly hearing thoughts or getting bombarded with energies from other people that are in the same room as I am. I have collected them like a sponge and held onto them for years.

I am now learning how to protect myself from others energies and becoming more aware of how to live my life as an Empath.

When crisis occurs in the world I feel it.  When a friend calls me upset and we talk, I feel it. It’s not just empathy, I feel it in the core of my being. Like I am this person and I can feel what they are going through. Sometimes when I think of a loved one feelings and words just flow into my brain as if a dam had broke and the water is gushing through. I feel as if I am drowning.

I can’t watch anything with too much action or anything at all with violence. I no longer watch the news or read the newspapers as this just upsets me for days.  My husband will tell me some of the news that is going on and sometimes I just have to stop him from telling me any more information. I connect deeply with characters that actors portray when they are immersed in a roll and I can feel the pain of the actor in a movie as if it were my own.

It is my job now to acknowledge this about myself, to protect myself from these situations and learn how to live in a World that is so full of energy. I am reading books, blogs, and searching on Pinterest.  Surprisingly there are so many out there like me.

It was so wonderful to find others that were/are going through this to help me see that I am not alone in this.

When I was a young child I thought I had magic inside me. I thought I was magical of some sort. I now know that there is a magic inside me that is different from what most people know. I just have to learn how to protect myself and open my mind to new ways of thinking.

Many Empaths are fellow Teachers, Nurses, Reiki practitioners, Police officers or those that serve and protect others. We have the overwhelming desire to heal others and to protect fellow human beings and animals from the darkness and show them the light that we see.

Empaths and Narcissists are greatly attracted to one another.  Sometimes the pull is undeniable. The Empath sees light and positive in everyone. But often times we discard the red flags because the good we see covers up those red flags that most others would see right away. Our view is blurred by our ability to see the good in others which at times can be a fault and detrimental to our well-being and health. I have found myself in two long term relationships with Narcissists and it was not good. It breaks the Empath and shatters their self-worth and well-being into grains of sand that you try to pick up with a sifter or a slotted spoon. We loose ourselves with these people. So no matter how much you want to help, if you are an Empath do your research on Narcissists. We can not fix or help them because they don’t want to help themselves.  If you have been involved with one it can take years to recover from. I am getting better with this, but I am still working on it!

Meditation and release of these energies are crucial for an Empath. I use Epsom salt baths, put a light bubble around me for protection (from the book: The LIGHTWORKER), ask for protection from my Angels, and daily have to do energy clearing exercises just to function at a low level.  I am working on this and learning new things daily to help me heal and learn.

It has been an amazing journey and I am looking forward to what is in my future!

 

 

10 Quotes that we need in our lives today

I have quotes pinned on Pinterest, I have quotes written on random pieces of paper in my home.  There is something about a quote that can just make the day! I could go on for pages with quotes but I’ll just throw these 6 out there for now.

1)”Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that” -Martin Luther King Jr.

What wonderful words that could transform the world if we just listen to them.  I often have to remind myself not to get upset over something negative someone has said.  Especially in the news today, we hear this constantly. Which is why I don’t watch the news, skip over posts on Facebook that are tearing others or themselves to shreds and remind myself that I have control over what I read and watch. I am trying my best to let my light shine and not let others dull my sparkle. 🙂

2)”People are the least loveable when they need love the most”-Toby Mac

Isn’t this the truth? I know this to be true about myself and my depression.  I can be hard to love at times because I close myself off from others.  I think we can all relate to this quote at some point in our lives and maybe it can change the way we empathize with others. This quote has also helped me to have more empathy for those who have hurt me in the past.

3) “Don’t be ashamed of your story, it just might inspire someone”-Toby Mac

This is what I am hoping for through my healing with blogging.  I think it’s important for people to share their stories with one another so we can get a better understanding of those we love.  Everyone has a story, if you listen, you just might be surprised and learn something new. If you listen hard enough you may just hear yourself. 🙂

4) “Something will grow from all you are going through, and it will be you” -Toby Mac

I am at the point in my journey where I am starting to see myself and who I am.  It has taken a long time to get there though.  I kept this quote close to me during my dark days and looked at it often and it lifted me up.

5) “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”- Maya Angalou

Isn’t this the truth; whether it was something good or something less pleasant. Those feelings of interactions stick with us and we remember how they made us feel.

6) “If you wouldn’t say it to a friend, don’t say it to yourself”- Jane Travis

This one I have to constantly remind myself about. Please be kind to yourself.  You never know what the universe has in store for you and the number one person to take care of and be kind to is yourself. Don’t forget about that very important person! YOU!

7) “Remember how far you have come, not just how far you have to go.  You are not where you want to be, but neither are you where you used to be.” -Unknown

This is a wonderful quote to remind myself that I am growing and learning every single day, I am not where I once was even if I am not yet to the place I would like to be.  I am trying to enjoy the journey getting there as much as I can.

8) “You are the Universe expressing itself as a human for a little while.”-Eckhart Tolle

What power this quote has! To think that we are connected and a part of this wonderful Universe and we are here for such a short time to find our purpose and contribution. Mind.Blown.

9) “The Earth does not belong to man. Man belongs to the Earth”. -Unknown

I greatly agree with the Native Americans ideas and beliefs about the Earth. I do not believe that it belongs to anyone as well as I believe we are soulfully connected to the Earth and everything we do has a ripple impact on the Universe and the Earth. Everything is made up of energy, so why wouldn’t all beings, animals, and the Earth be connected. Just a thought.

10) “Possession of material riches, without inner peace, is like dying of thirst while bathing in a lake”. -Paramahausa Yoganada

This is something I believe most humans struggle with at one point in their life or another.  I would accumulate things trying to fill my void where spirituality and inner-knowledge of myself were missing. I am still learning about this but I find that I don’t need to have the newest cars, gadgets, clothes, or largest home and I feel at peace in this space.  Craft hoarding on the other hand is something that I am currently dealing with but, I am finding so much more peace as I am finding my spiritual path and the empty peieces are becoming more filled in throughout my journey.

 

 

Share your favorite inspirational quote that you adore! I would love to hear it! 🙂

What to say to someone who has depression and/or anxiety

What should I say? What should I not say? I’ll just say nothing.  I think that the latter is a pretty common stance on talking to people that you know have depression or anxiety. I understand where you would choose this option.  Unfortunately, this creates more distance in a relationship and often closes it off forever or at least for the length of time it takes for someone to start healing from the depression and anxiety.

I will include a few things that were so nice to hear as I am going through my depression.

I believe everyone is doing the best they can with what they know. If no one tells others about depression and how a statement or something said to them made them feel than we with the depression are not doing our part. We need to stand together for mental health and create a loving awareness for others.

Mental Health has just recently started coming out and being talked about.  It has come so very far, but still, has a long way to go.

No one is going to be harder on themselves than the one who is depressed or has anxiety.  This is just simple fact. So while we are in a state of beating ourselves up we need others to help show us that we hold a light inside ourselves that we cannot yet see.

We are already telling ourselves these following statements every single minute of every single day so we don’t need to hear it from another person as it just validates the negative thoughts we have about ourselves and it is the last thing we need. Statements such as: “Just get over it”, “Why aren’t you better yet”, “Why aren’t you trying harder”, and my all time favorite “Others have it so much worse than you do” “My friend had depression and all she had to do was find God, maybe you should go to church (or do something else)” Not only is the depressed person depressed, but they are simultaneously beating themselves up for being depressed.

Anytime you can point out the positive aspects of a person with depression it is greatly appreciated. Each task no matter how small is a victory for us that often go unnoticed even by ourselves.  It is especially nice when someone else points them out to us. Such as:

“Wow, that must’ve taken you a lot of energy to put those dishes in the dishwasher! I’m so proud of you, you did it!”

“You got out of bed and took a shower (brushed your teeth, ate something, read the mail, took the dog for a walk, cooked a meal, stood up and put your feet on the floor, talked to a friend, went out for coffee, went to a movie, etc. depending on where the person is at) I am so impressed that today, at this moment, you were able to do this, even if in the future you are unable to complete this task.”

“Wow, you wouldn’t have been able to do this a month ago. Look how far you have come. Even if you take steps back you have made further steps forward.

This may seem like you are talking to a child. In a sense, I guess it is.  If you think of how much the influence of words has on a child whether condescending or uplifting.  The direction in which you present your words will guide someone suffering from depression and anxiety in the same way.

Just like a physically impairing injury, so are mental health challenges.  They impair us mentally as well as physically. Mental health challenges often take longer to recover from than a physical injury does because we don’t know how it happened or where it came from. Some can be caused by trauma and life events that we may have repressed for too long of a time or it can be single or in combination with a chemical imbalance. I am not a physician and nor do I proclaim myself as one, it is just a personal opinion that in most situations it is a little bit of both.

Acknowledgment of our victories is a huge thing.  Please point them out as you notice them because we may not see them ourselves. A simple but wonderful thing to say is, you are in my thoughts and prayers, or I am sending you positive loving energy.”

Something as simple as: “I am sorry you are going through this” makes a huge difference.

 

 

 

 

A few things that are helping me on my journey with depression

Thank you for reading this whether it is for yourself or for someone you love.

I am going to share a few things that have helped me along the way with my depression and anxiety.  This doesn’t mean that it will magically work for you or your loved one as each journey is different, very unique, and individual.

For me, some days are what people would call a normal mood. Not overjoyed, not sad, just existing with a pleasant outlook on the day and my life where I have hope in my heart and can see brighter days ahead.  It has taken me 3 years to get to these moments of feeling almost “normal” existence. Which, normal is such a horrible word. My Mom said it best when she stated to me when I mentioned as a young child, “I just want to feel normal!” My wise mother said, “Oh sweetie, the only place you find normal is a setting on the dryer”.  I have carried this with me and find it so true! We all have our very own normal and no two individual’s normal is the same.

I read a description comparison of depression in Doreen Virtue’s book- Assertiveness for Earth Angels, How to be loving instead of too nice.  In this section of her book called Dark Night of the Soul, she explains that the Egyptians would use a process called “The Dark Night of the Soul where an Egyptian would go through their right of passage to become a High Priest or Priestess. Through this process, the Egyptian would be locked in a sarcophagus (like a coffin) for several days.  You would be faced with your darkest demons (or thoughts) and some would die of panic and sheer terror while some would come through and make their way to being a Priest or Priestess. This just states how truly powerful our thoughts really are and how much control they have over us.

When I read this I thought this is what I am going through exactly! It has been a terrifying and eye opening experience for me and I have learned so much about myself.  I was close many times to taking my own life. Not because I was weak, but because the darkness was too intense for too long and the weight that was carried with the depression was so strong that I didn’t feel that I could take one more breath, much less step without getting out of the sarcophagus.

What is helping me to get through this is:

1) A wonderful support system that does not judge me or lecture me on what I am not able to do right now and accepts when I need time alone and celebrates with me when I can do something. Not everyone has this, unfortunately.  So if you are a friend of someone who is going through this, thank you for searching and helping your friend and having patience.

2) My wonderful counselor:

She and I are a great fit. She gives me a little push when I need it but respects where I am.  I was comfortable finding a counselor that respected nature. Even when I go in her office I feel safe and grounded.

3) My Psychiatrist and my medications:

It’s hard for me to say that I have to take medications because that is something I am not “proud” of. But I am trying to love myself and respect that this is something I need to feel better. Some of us just have that darn chemical imbalance.  The struggle with finding the right psychiatrist and the right medications is a very time consuming and tough process. Please be patient with someone who is going through this. I have never heard of someone finding the right meds their first try. I am still working on this with my Dr.

4) My Depression and Anxiety support group:

I strongly recommend when you feel able to do this. Go for it! It is so nice to meet with others that are going through something similar and can understand the feeling and the weight on you when you can’t get out of bed. I hope there is something for you in your area. Or join an online form if you can find a safe one that feels right to you. Know that you are not alone. I am sure you can bring just as much to the group as you can get from them.  Just trust your intuition when you feel that the group no longer serves your higher purpose.

5) My Life Coach:

Wow, where would I be without this amazing soul? The Universe sent her to me in the perfect divine timing that I needed her.  I have gone through meditations, learned new tools that seem to work with me on every level.  She always knows just what to present to me to help me work on myself.  She works with the law of attraction and energy.  She is absolutely a life saver! Literally!

6) The books I’ve read:

I finally came to a place where I could read again after about 3 years of dark depression.  In my darkest depression, all I could do was lay in bed and not get out and watch t.v. Or sleep for hours on end. I still have those days, but they are a little less frequent and not the whole month, rather just 2-3 weeks a month.  Which is progress to me! I have a link at the top of the page that has a list of some books I found helpful for me. Take down some titles and head to Barnes and Nobles or your favorite book store and see what speaks to you.  What may work for me will not necessarily work for you. Use your intuition and what feels right to you. Also, when reading I take what feels right with me when I read and I try my best to leave the rest. Every part of every book may not be meant for you. Just use your best judgment and trust your intuition.

7) Reiki:

I have a local Reiki practitioner who is absolutely amazing and has been a saving grace in my life! I felt an immediate connection with her and my life has been moving in wonderful directions since my first session. I highly recommend finding a Reiki practitioner that you can connect with and feel good about to help you on your journey. This has brought me so much more spiritual insight as well. It is an amazing journey!

8) Meditation:

This has been HUGE for me and my journey.  All of these components seemed to come together in the right order just as the Universe has intended. I have learned so much through: breath work, guided meditations, reading about meditations, and my journey is far from being over! Which, is exciting!

My biggest challenge for myself:

Probably the biggest challenge for me is learning to love myself. This is my hardest hurdle for me to work through. I have come a long way, but I still have a long way to go.  I need to be just as patient and kind with myself as I am with others when I am down; regardless of others expectations of me.

Accepting that, right now, I can’t do the things I used to do and that’s ok.  I try my best to be where I am at in the now,  and accept it for what it is and not try to change it as much as work with it and accept it.

My life coach said in a session: Does this feel upstream to you, or does this feel down stream?

I try to ask that of myself frequently with my thoughts and actions, even with my blog! This has been a great help for me and a simple thing that only takes a moment. I didn’t realize how upstream my life really was!

I send you love, light, and positive warm energy to surround you in your life every day. Please try and be open to the beauty, love, and good the Universe has to offer because you are more than worthy of all of these great things and more!

 

 

 

Movies and T.V. Shows for Empaths and Highly Sensitive People

Movies and T.V. Shows for Empaths and Highly Sensitive People

I have done a complete 360 or 180, whatever you want to call it. I went from a horror film fanatic and action junkie to cartoons and Hallmark movies. I’m already chomping at the bit for Hallmark to come out with their 33 Christmas Movies/Shows as to their previous year(s) of 22. SCORE!!! Documentaries are also on my new favorite lists. I’m looking forward to seeing: Chasing Coral!

 

Gifted:

Warning to Empaths and HSP: You will need a box of Kleenex for a couple scenes in this movie. But, this is a great one if you need to release some emotions and need to watch something with a happy ending.

This movie includes a fabulous cast member named Chris Evans. Yes, there is something about Captain America in a feel-good drama that just sucked me in. The wonderful plot of a genius young girl and a financially struggling uncle as a Father figure leaves a warm spot in your heart.

 

Last Vegas:

This movie may resonate with the older crowd more than the younger. But I found this movie a must-see.   Robert Di Niro, Michael Douglas, Morgan Freeman, Kevin Kline, and Mary Steenburgen are among some on the list of noteworthy Actors in this film. This movie has humor, a gentle truth and reality associated with the aging process, and the fictional encompassing vision of a lifelong friendship. I actually had to rewind a couple parts of the movie because I was laughing so hard. It’s more of a fun and dry sense of humor which is so hard to find in a movie these days. I highly recommend it! Hey, I didn’t miss the vulgar and gross humor either! They do call each other some names in this movie as they banter if this bothers you.

 

Despicable Me and Despicable me 2:

I admit it! I am an adult and I absolutely LOVE children’s movies! This is one of my favorites! There is something about a villain turned good-guy with the help of 3 little adorable girls with completely contrasting personalities that just had me done for and all in. I think the second one is just as good as the first one.  I just saw Despicable Me 3 in theatres with my husband. Yes, we are THOSE people and proud of it! 😊 I was not as impressed with the 3rd version and I thought there were some pretty sexually suggestive scenes for kids to see (just in my opinion). There was a reference to “boobs” as well as close to naked statues by a pool, compromising body positions, and a very energetic scene of a woman on an exercise ball.  So, if you have young kiddos maybe preview or research first before you take them or let them watch.  Our society has become so accustomed to these things unfortunately that most probably don’t even notice it.  We do not have any children so I can’t say from a parent’s perspective, but I did work in a daycare for 10+ years and always think of the littles when I see a show. Although, in my family, I wasn’t supposed to watch R rated movies until 18 or out of the house unless parents watched first. Which I thought was stupid but now realize was really smart and I would do the same. I’ll get off my soap box now.

 

Trolls:

Yes, another animated film. LOVED IT! This movie just makes me feel good. The music is wonderful and the characters are so charming and real. The voice-overs by Justin Timberlake and Anna Kendrick are spectacular. Although, I am a little partial to them both.  The only concern I would have would be for the kids is there might be some scared little ones if they are highly sensitive. The ogres can be a tad scary. But like most children’s movies, there has to be a villain. Use your judgment or read reviews. Something about singing and sparkling glitter that just can’t leave you in a bad mood.

 

Love Actually:

A romantic Christmas comedy? ME??? YES!!! This movie is a great every Christmas season watch for me.  I love how the stories of individuals seem to come together in the end.  There is something about this idea that just makes me happy.  Even though there are some mild sad parts throughout the movie, I think you can pull through it. It instills hope in the hearts of romantics everywhere. Believe it or not, if you haven’t seen it Liam Neeson is in it and he is not trying to get his daughter back that was taken or shooting down the bad guys. To me, it was a feel-good movie with the Christmas spirit in tow.

 

The Family Stone:

Also, Yes, a Christmas movie.  This family comedically pulls off pretty much every aspect of life’s journey that you can think of.  Well, almost.  There is an amazing and wonderful gay couple, a couple that’s not meant to be together, and a couple that ends up together after awkward happenings. There is some sadness in the show towards the last part of the film. But it’s ending has wonderful memory and presentation of the family and brings them all together to unite as a family unit.

 

Wild Hogs:

This movie is a great comedic relief.  I watch this one when I need a pick-me-up.  The group of 4 men who are wannabe bikers travel across the country on bikes. Getting into unforeseen mischief and creating their own new pack like no other. This movie always brings a smile to my face! With Tim Allen, John Travolta, Martin Lawrence, and William H. Macy how can you go wrong!? William H. Macy plays the role of a “nerd” and he gets a tattoo…a tattoo of the “Apple” by Mac. Just one of the funny things that happen during their adventures.

 

T.V. Series:

Gilmore Girls:

I admit I didn’t watch this one until it came out on Netflix and I binged the whole thing! I couldn’t get away from it, to the point where it was probably almost unhealthy.  They have such quick-witted humor that sometimes I had to rewind or put on the subtitles to catch it all.  Life lessons and family values are taught. Like any t.v. show there were some less than reality character plots. Such as a mother and daughter that get along seamlessly and almost NEVER fight. WHAT!?!? Also, they live in a town that is a bit, Stepford Wives. But, the characters are endearing and it’s fun to root for them through their struggles so you can forget about your own. I’m also a huge fan of Lauren Graham and we share the same Birthday! How lucky am I?!?!

 

Parenthood:

I watched this series on Netflix twice. Loved it, I guess I can quit saying that as you have figured out that is probably why I am recommending these movies, duh! 😉 There is something for everyone in this series. From older adult to young adult there is a story for everyone. It also made me feel better about not having all my $h*& together! 😊

 

There are so many more movies to list but your eyes would need a nap if I put them in! I hope you can find one on the list that you have watched and liked or try one out! Let me know what your favorite feel-good or HSP/Empath friendly movies or t.v. shows are that you watch, have watched, or enjoy!

 

 

Self-medicating: When the Lightworker is lost

Sometimes I just really miss alcohol!! It will be 4 years in October on the 14th since I have had my last drink. I spent years self-medicating my depression and anxiety. I would binge drink and would drink to get me through any social situation. I would drink by myself to lift up my mood. I was in what I felt were the beginning stages of alcoholism. I have lost many so-called friends after quitting. I have been in a deep depression and have excruciating anxiety. I had all of this before I quit drinking but I hit rock bottom after I quit.

No longer being able to work, go to social events, concerts, gatherings with more than 4 people. It has been a very long road with many treacherous road blocks and mountains to climb every single day. I am getting through and finding my way little by little.

I am on the path to healing and spiritual awakening which has been a wonderful and amazing ride. To all of you affected by addiction if it’s yourself or someone you love I empathize with you, I believe in you, and I love you. If you are suffering from this disease please know you are in my prayers, I send positive vibes and energy, and endless love to support you. You are beautiful, you are important, you are deserving of every happiness the universe has to offer and you can do this!! My heart is with you for encouragement and love every single second. You never fail, we all make mistakes, love yourself enough to try again because I do.

I am not a Dr. and I do not claim to be one. I was able to quit on my own, but many need assistance, meetings, or properly prescribed therapy and/or medications to help them through this. This doesn’t make someone more weak to ask for help and acknowledge the issue. This takes the greatest strength, courage, and the best kind of love to do so; self-love.

I currently am seeing a wonderful counselor, (it took a few tries to find a connection that worked for me) a depression and anxiety support group, a psychiatrist, and many books that are helping me in my search for my true self.

Best wishes to all of my friends and family that are dealing with these issues. You’ve got this!!   Thank you to my wonderful family and husband for supporting me through my journey! I know it hasn’t been easy, without you by my side I would not be here today! 

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